It’s the relationship…
Is Psychoanalysis Right for You?
Why Psychoanalysis? Psychoanalysis has a long history as a progressive movement, devoted to both the personal and common good. It remains a radical, anti-conformist way of re-visioning all forms of human relatedness, personal and cultural, and of fostering creativity and individuality in both domains. Psychoanalysis asks us to examine those processes of self-deception that perpetuate individual as well as social oppression. While we have been in the vanguard of liberation movements internationally, as psychoanalytic therapists we are foremost in providing therapy for individuals and couples suffering personal distress.
Our roots are Freudian, but in this 21st Century, the issues we work with, and the ways we think and work, are a far cry from your grandfather’s psychoanalysis. Freud taught us that the templates for all of our patterns of feeling, thinking, being and relating are established in our earliest relationships with our primary caregivers, and with our family groups as a whole, including siblings. And we have learned through our experience as patients and as clinicians, corroborated in much independent research, that it takes a new relationship of the particular kind we provide, to dislodge these patterns and help our patients develop a truer sense of self, and become capable of more fulfilling relationships.There is a popular misconception that analysis involves dredging up and re-hashing the past. How it really works is much more interesting: the “past” with its residue of difficult patterns, as well as the residues of ways we have tried to survive, which create even more difficulties, is painfully alive and active in our present lives, contaminating our current sense of self and our relationships and keeping us entrapped in old stories. We live it unconsciously, despite our best intentions. It takes the safety and reliability of our relationship with our analyst to experience new ways of being ourselves. In these new experiences, the grip of the past loosens, and the past can then truly become old history.
What is Psychotherapy?
The Greek etymologies of “therapy” and of “psyche” provide illumination:
Psyche – the mind or heart of the individual, not in a bodily sense, but as the seat of the soul. The soul is the dynamic seed of aliveness in each of us, the source of our desires, our losses, our joy and our suffering through this earthly “vale of tears”: tears of joy, tears of sorrow, tears of laughter, tears of anger, tears of remorse, tears of excited anticipation….An alive soul is warm and wet, and invites communion with other warm souls.
Therapy – to pay attention to, to care for, to serve.
Psychotherapy is a relationship co-created by a therapist and a patient in which they attend to the soul of the patient.
A “patient” is, etymologically, a person who suffers and needs to learn to suffer better, I.e. to compost the inevitable suffering that is part of all human lives, for her own deepening into compassion, joy and love. Also, to relinquish needless and often self-inflicted suffering. A therapist is a person who by way of her own suffering and therapy, and her long and deep immersion in the healing paths that fit her soul, may serve the psyche of the patient, nurture its development.”
What is a Therapist?
A therapist is a person who, by way of her own suffering and therapy, and her long and deep immersion in the healing paths that fit her soul, may serve the psyche of the patient and nurture its development. Psychoanalytic psychotherapy is a healing conversation. My desire is for these conversations to be not only the most profound, but also the most en JOY able ones you will ever have. They may include as much silence, reflective time, emotions and insights as you need. Our overarching goal is for you to be able to end your therapy much better equipped to create a life of meaningful relationships, creative work and play.